Life is busy - I appreciate that and I also get the fact that every one needs some time out. But its not really that simple for some folk to do this. Have you ever been told to relax? Or told to have some "You" time. What is that?
If you have kids then "you" time has disappeared up its own ass till the youngest is about 7 and old enough to work the remote!! Do your kids follow you into the bathroom or up the garden just to ask if its their turn for the TV now? Does your child walk past 1 or even 2 other adults to seek YOU out and ask you a question they could've asked the 1st person they past.
"You" time sounds good in principle but even if there are no other human - or animal distractions, how do you turn off your head? How do you stop the running commentary that's going on in your head about the jobs that still need to be done while your having your you time! Or the the voice that questions why you are having the you time in the 1st place.
Guilt is part of the problem, doing something for yourself can feel incredibly selfish but then the biting and chewing of heads can be seen this way too. I for one just need 5 little minutes to myself a couple of times a day. I'm trying to have one now with you but I'm currently being bothered by one of my children who is not even in the same house as me! He is texting me as he needs to have an answer now!! To a very important question!! (in his mind only) and though I can turn my phone off I don't.
I have given him my answer - he is happy - I'm one child free for the evening and about to go and shake the other 2 into shape and take them on a route march - thus tiring them out and giving me opportunities later for some further me time - which I will be taking in the form of Mr Darcy and Lizzy Bennett.